Tips For Online Dating In COVID - 19 (Lock down)
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Spring is supposed to be romantic — enjoying long dinners on the patio at your corner cafe, introducing your new beau to friends at an outdoor concert, holding hands on an evening stroll ... except for coronavirus. So, none of that is happening. And yet, people are still seeking love and connection. In fact, dating apps like Tinder and Bumble have seen the length of user conversations and number of messages increase since shelter-in-place orders went into effect.
And for those maintaining a relationship during the pandemic, scroll down! We have a few tips on getting through this without biting your partner's head off.
Embrace the real you.
Image is an undeniable aspect of virtual dating. So what do you do if you want to create a profile with your best face forward, but don't have the usual resources?
That question came to us from Jacqueline, who wrote into the podcast Dates & Mates. "Salons and businesses are closed, so one can't have a makeover done. Is it OK to do the best you can with what you have with items at home?"
While there's nothing wrong with wanting to look your best, Moore says to consider the double standard. "Women are held to such a disgustingly higher standard that like now you have to maintain, like untold levels of hotness in quarantine."
It might sound sappy, but this is also an opportunity to embrace a more authentic version of yourself. "Maybe now is a good time to be like, 'This is what I actually look like.' "
Be honest and Loyal
You can get a good idea of chemistry through a video chat. So if everything is going well — you feel comfortable and there are no signs of caginess — she suggests being honest about not knowing how to proceed. "I think that you could just ask him because he's probably thinking the same thing. It's entirely possible that he's thinking like, 'Oh, how are we going to move through this?' And who knows, maybe he has an answer," Moore says.
"It just ultimately comes down to is it worth it to you?"
Give yourself some extra grace right now.
This is an evergreen tip for anything pandemic-related: Be easy on yourself. Forgive yourself. This is a hard time. You might not get it all right.
When feathers are ruffled, listen, and take breaks.
Fights with your partner during lock down are different. You can't go get advice over drinks with your friends. You may not even be able to move to a different room. What's the solution?
If you're in a fight, try putting a pause on the conversation and doing something else. "It might just be folding the laundry," Hoffman says. "Then set a time that you and your partner can come back and have this discussion. So say, 'Why don't we talk about this tonight after the kids go to bed or tomorrow after I've had a chance to talk to my therapist?
Even in lock down, there are lots of ways to access therapy, from virtual appointments to apps, "Use the tools that we have available so that you can be your best self in the relationship. You can continue your Love Life with your Compatible Companion after lock down.:)