Mistakes To Avoid In Online Dating
Don't Connect Too Quickly
Things are hitting off and you want to meet each other. Great!
One of the online dating mistakes you may make is trying to connect through social profiles and exchanging phone numbers too quickly. Sure, they’d like to meet but they may not want to become Facebook friends and divulge too much information all at once.
Have you ever crossed a profile which had pictures of the person doing something you hate (maybe smoking?), outdated (from years ago), or doesn’t show their angles?
That’s the easiest online dating mistakes you can make.
There’s no reason not to have a few good pictures on your profile considering you probably have a Facebook profile to pull them from and the fact you have a phone or camera to take new ones.
What to do: Put your best picture forward. Upload the high-quality photos showing your activities and show off who you are. People want to see someone having fun and get an idea of their body (since physical attraction is a major thing).
Some people have terrible profiles.
They’re barely filled out or if they are then there’s not much to it for others to ask questions and get to know them.
You need to take the time to fill in the information and answer surveys/quizzes.
What to do: Have your friend read your profile and get a real assessment of how well it represents you. Get a few girl or guy friends to help out, too! Write who you are — don’t hold back and don’t be a fake — because eventually, you’ll find out this stuff about each other anyway.
You need to close.
Frequently, online dating mistakes amount to getting chatty leading it on and on to the point that if you were to meet — there isn’t much to talk about.
This seems to happen after 3 days in many situations.
You burn through all the excitement to the point there really isn’t much of a drive to meet up because now each person is acting on emotion and more on the logical side.
The point of online dating is to do that: go on a date and get to know each other.
What to do: Going on, for days or weeks, kills the opportunity. It’s better to try early on rather than seeing it fizzle out from boredom. Try to do something more than talking within the first few days after the initial contact.
Too Much Aggression
A big turn off and online dating mistake is being too aggressive and pushing the person to share personal information or meet up well before they’re comfortable with you.
You have to take things slow (but not too slow — as explained above).
What to do: Give it a few days of back-and-forth, really exploring interests, and then make a move versus trying to just “hook up” the same day you’re getting in contact else you’ll alienate them and send them packing.
Not A Good Listener
It's easy to swipe until you find someone you like.... but is that person going to like you?
Check if your potential date likes the same things you do.
If your criteria fit, send a message. If not, you should probably be moving on.