• Rishika Chaudhary

Make Your Online Dating Profile Stand Out!

Updated: Jul 9, 2020

Making yourself stand out is key to online dating profile success. But are you showing off what makes you different? So many people are in such a rush to get a profile written and get out dating, that they’ve barely drawn breath from the ending of another relationship before they’re back out there. There is huge value in taking time to be on your own, to actually learn to love your own company and to spend time in reflection.

It’s really important to know what makes you different so that you can stand out. Once you know what makes you unique you can then weave that through your online dating profile. You want potential dates to choose YOU rather than someone else, after all.

Having online dated for longer than I can remember it would be honest to say I have seen my fair share of online dating profiles. Despite recognizing that a good profile picture is of paramount importance when online dating, I also believe that a well-written profile is of equal importance. A photo says yes, I like your face. A well-written profile? I also like your mind.

Forget about the Basic Selfie

The subject of the perfect profile picture is so intriguing that even scientists have worked on decoding what we want to see when looking for an online match.

Through lots of research, smart people found out something that I’ve known for a long, long time – a basic selfie isn’t going to cut it.

The aim of the profile pic is to tell a potential match who you are and what you do. A photo showing you mountain climbing will obviously attract people who are interested in the same. Pictures in social settings show the world that you have friends and you’re not always stuck in front of the computer.

Don't Mention Your Life Story

Some people feel compelled to share their entire history, philosophy, and views on dating with the world. Do you know what this approach accomplishes? It makes you boring! Research suggests we now have a shorter attention span than a goldfish. Nobody has the time or the patience to go through your entire biography when looking for an online match.

Keep it short and catchy. Humor is good but doesn’t be crass or insensitive.

If You Want Something, Say It!

Why are you doing online dating? Are you looking for a hookup? Are you looking for a life partner and the mother of your children? Unless you make your intentions clear right from the start, you’re going to end up seriously disappointed.

We often don’t share exactly what we want due to fear of rejections. If you don’t tell the world what you really need from a romantic match, however, you’ll end up wasting your own time and the time of another person who’s looking for something different.

Obviously, a long and tedious checklist of requirements for the perfect match will result in zero communication attempts. Still, a short section of your profile may outline your dating interests and the type of person you’d like to meet. Most people will appreciate the honesty.

Show Who You Are.

There’s nothing less appealing than bragging. Instead of telling potential matches how great you are, try to share this information in an indirect way.

Don’t describe yourself as a great, loyal friend that everybody relies on. Instead, you may want to include a brief profile anecdote of something that you’ve done for a person you love. People who come across your profile will reach the right conclusion on their own.

Photos and videos can also share aspects of your life you’d like to announce without appearing overly baggy and egocentric.

A good online dating profile takes time to produce. It requires thought, effort, and a bit of creativity. Don’t be afraid to do something crazy, if you feel that it’s in line with your character. After all, you’re not looking for mass appeal. The primary aim of you being on an online dating website is to attract someone who’s similar-minded and who’ll appreciate all of your quirks and eccentricities.

Invest in humor

A little humor goes a long way with online dating profiles. So add a little joke, a pun or a witty remark, and watch as suitors flood your feed. It doesn’t even have to be a super funny, well-thought-out, giving Jim Carey a run for his money type of joke. Even a lame dad joke could do the trick.

Include a cliffhanger in your bio

Cliffhangers are a clever way to get people interested and willing to take action on your profile. You could tell a story, start a knock-knock joke, or even ask a question. That triggers curiosity that will work in your favor. It works by getting people not only eager to match with you but also excited to make the first move and find out the ending. A cliffhanger is also a great icebreaker.

Mention your intentions

Honesty in online dating is very refreshing and will make your profile stand out. Whether you are there to find a wife, a date to your friend’s wedding, or even a casual hookup (read the X Match review if you are interested in casual dating) you need to be honest about it. Honesty ensures that people who express their interests are only those who truly want what you have to offer.

Fill in All the Fields

One mistake a lot of people make is not taking advantage of the tools the app provides. For instance, if the dating site you're on allows you to have seven photos, then provide seven photos. If the app provides the option to verify your photos, then take advantage of it.

The key is that you make use of every tool they provide. In fact, data has shown that the more you put into your online dating profile, the more responses you will receive.

Provide Plenty of Examples

Try to make your profile interesting by giving examples when talking about things you enjoy. For instance, instead of saying that you enjoy reading, tell readers your favorite book. Or, if you like hiking, tell them your favorite trail.

The more you go into detail, the more likely a person might get excited and think "they're perfect for me." On the other hand, if your profile is surface-level and generic, it's easy to get lost in the pile and be dismissed. You can even provide details of the type of person you are looking for or the types of dating experiences you might enjoy.

Be Concise

Even though details are important, it's still smart to be somewhat selective about the information you choose to share. When it comes to writing a dating profile, a short paragraph or two is enough. You should give an overview of who you are, but not tell your entire life story all at once.

Remember, you want to give people a reason to message you and get to know you, and there's something fun about maintaining a little bit of mystery!

Additionally, make sure your profile isn't too long and that you stay upbeat and positive. Providing lots of don'ts or information about what you don't like is a turnoff for many people—even when they agree with you.

Create Opportunities to Connect

One of the best things you can do with your dating profile is to provide ways for people to start a conversation with you if you want to find your compatible Partner.

For instance, once you are matched with someone, they are going to view your profile and, if interested, try to think of something to say when they reach out. Consequently, you want to be sure your profile provides enough information that they could ask you a question about something in it.

Or, if you want, include a conversation starter. Apps such as Hinge provide prompts for you to fill out with details of yourself, many with the implication of starting a conversation. "Change my mind about...", "Two truths and a lie", and "What I want to know about you" are all fun ways for you to put some information out there that makes it easy for people to reach out and break the ice.

Be Honest

When it comes to online dating, it can be tempting to stretch the truth a bit in order to present yourself in the best possible light. But, the majority of people prefer honesty over perfection while talking to people online or making friends online.

So, make a concerted effort to be as open and honest as you can. After all, you are just setting yourself up for unneeded stress and disappointment if you try to come off as someone you're not.

While it's natural to want to be accepted, it's more important that you aren't trying to fit yourself into some mold that you think others would want. Remember, it's the little oddball things that make you interesting!



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