• Neha Agarwal

How To Overcome Challenges With New Flatmate

House sharing can be a minefield - treacherous to navigate especially if you are a first-timer. Whether you’re sharing a house, a flat or even a room, living with someone you barely know is very likely to cause some unusual problems. Most of the time these problems are simple misunderstandings. To help you navigate the concoction of shared living, here we list the most common flatmate problems and our well-intentioned advice on how to get by.

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1. Cleaning And Chores

Everyone has different standards of cleanliness and different methods in which they clean. Maybe you’re territorial and like your space or perhaps you’re a bit of a slob and don’t see the need to spend your day on your hands and knees scrubbing away. Whatever the case, it is important to find the middle ground with your roomie.

2. Extra Flatmate Problems

Customary flatmate problems occur when an extra person who wasn’t originally accounted for comes into the equation. This can be a good friend or your flatmate’s partner. Bear in mind that you would always want your friends to feel welcome at your home and so limiting your flatmate from doing the same is frankly unfair. Have certain ground rules to deal with the situation. For example, guests are allowed only up to three times a week. When it comes to boyfriends and girlfriends, allow your flatmate some grace and politely talk to them if you feel they’re taking your accomodating approach for granted.

3. Parties And Noise

Of all the flatmate problems this is one of the tougher issues to navigate through. If your flatmate is an all-time party person, sit your flatmate(s) down and ask if there’s any way they can scale back the partying, or perhaps take it someplace else. Be willing to adjust if your flatmate is uncomfortable with you being the party animal.

4. Different Sleep Schedules

If you’re more of an early bird and your flatmate is more of a night owl, your completely different sleeping schedules may bring you both to blows at some point. There are, however, ways to navigate the thorny problem of your sleeping times so that you both get the rest you need. First of all ascertain some ground rules, such as keeping noise to a minimum from midnight onward. This implies no loud television or music, no talking on the phone in parts of the house where your flatmates can hear you, and no slamming cabinets when hunting for food in the kitchen. Investing in a good pair of earplugs is also one of the ways to ensure you sleep soundly.

5. What’s Yours Is Mine

If you have siblings you’ll be more than cognizant of the rage that mounts up whenever anyone takes liberties and uses someone else’s things. If you notice that one of your flatmates is taking your stuff, make it harder for them to do so. Simply move your things away from their grasp. If once you’ve moved your things to your room, you discover things are still going missing, then it’s time to confront them about the issue. Explain that you’re neither okay with them going into your room, nor are you okay with them taking your things as and when they please. Hopefully, they will accept that this is not something you enjoy.

6. Personal Hygiene

After a little while of living with your flatmate hopefully, you’ll know them well enough to determine whether their lack of personal hygiene is a normal thing with them, or is indicative of a deeper issue. Whatever the case it’s imperative that you’re as tactful as you can be if you plan on talking to your flatmate. If you know them well enough you can pass this off as a joke, which may get them thinking. Better, tell them you care for them and think they’ll feel a lot better if they get under a pleasant hot shower.

7. You Just Don’t Get Along

If you don’t see eye to eye, and you have really tried your very best, then it’s time for something that has not been mentioned yet: seek alternative housing. If any of your flatmate problems are getting you down and you feel like they’re irreconcilable then don’t despair. You don’t have to stay in your accommodation forever and you should take steps to move out if you feel like its the right thing for you.